One Year Later

.... And a couple weeks late. I've been meaning to blog the past couple weeks but I have been busy looking for a family to Nanny for & going to interviews. It's been a year now since I married my other half and it has been a great one! It's crazy how fast the year flew by. I feel like it was the day before yesterday that I was proposed to, and yesterday was the day of our wedding.

In the months leading up to our wedding I had person after person telling me that marriage is work. It was like a broken record, sometimes I even felt as though they were saying "Hey marriage isn't fun or enjoyable it's just work." But I have to say this year has been a lot of fun and a lot of enjoyment. Yes we both had to make adjustments, and we had to get used to each others little quirks that we may have found annoying; we just make sure to communicate.

I don't think it's just luck that we've had a great year, and I know there may be other years that may be a little tougher but I know we can meet them head on. Here are my reasons why I know we had such an enjoyable, fun, successful first year, and what I know we need to always do or not do in the future...

#1. Put God first! Any time that we weren't putting God first there would be a strain that would begin to develop. We would have small arguments here and there. Once we realized that the reason was because God wasn't first we would pray, and make sure to bring him back to the center.

#2. Communicate! It does so much more hurt for a relationship if you are not properly communicating. There was a time here and there in the beginning when something would be bothering me, if I didn't communicate that with Tim then it only made things worse. More than half of the time after I told him what was bothering me I would find out that I just misunderstood and had no reason to be upset. The other half of the time we would talk through the issue at hand, there was no name calling, or words that were said to purposely hurt the other person.

#3. Be willing to change some habits! This involves communication as well. When Tim and I are annoyed by something the other person does we tell each other. For example, Tim would leave his shoes right in front of the doorway so when I would come home I would end up tripping over them (something that could even be deadly for a person as clumsy as me). So, I asked him to please move them off to the side because it was really annoying (and hurt sometimes) to be tripping over them all of the time. And you know what? He began moving them off to the side. I have the habit of leaving clothes behind the bathroom door, he asked me to work on that, I have been. If you have open honesty about those things it can be a lot less annoying to live with that person. We also make sure to have a sense of humor about it. There's some things that are just habits that aren't able to be changed, Tim and I will just talk to each other about it in a jokingly way and laugh! You have to learn to just accept those habits or traits for what they are.

#4. Go to sleep! There's going to be times when you're just not having a good night, you're having small arguments here and there, or maybe a big argument about something for a reason you don't even know. Those are the moments where you should either just go to different rooms, or just go to bed. We had a night where for whatever reason we just kept having small arguments, we ended up just going to sleep and the next morning we felt completely fine and happy. Those moments will happen.

#5. Have fun! Get out of the house and do something together! There's usually something you can find to do for cheap or even free if you need to. One thing Tim have I done is climb Stone Mountain together. We've only climbed it twice so far but it was a lot of fun. I've also began researching free and cheap things to do in ATL with success. If you don't feel like doing something active then do something at home, play a game video or board, or watch one of your favorite movies together. Just do something!


Those are 1st 5 reasons that popped into my mind. That has all been part of our successful first year of marriage. If you have an tips or suggestions feel free to share! What do you like to do for fun with your man?